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Dads, Do This To Raise Badass Girls

October 25, 2022

Good morning; this week, we spent hours raking a pile of leaves, so you didn't have to. And your daughters can feel the joys of jumping right in.

🍁This week's pile of leaves is on Connection: Dads Do This To Raise Badass Girls 🍁

Dad Joke of The Week

Dads, Do This To Raise Badass Girls

Want to raise a badass daughter?

A daughter that isn't a helpless princess but is strong and independent?

I do!

I have two lovely daughters and want to raise them to be badasses (confident, fearless, and independent).

I don't want lil' princesses waiting for some prince to come to save them.

I want them to f@#k shit up!

The Disney princess message isn't the best for our daughters (thankfully, Disney finally gets that).

Here are eight things we dads can do to raise fiercely independent (badass) daughters who can conquer any life obstacle.

NOTE: For this guide, I adapted a great piece by wicked smart parenting expert (Harvard trained) @KimmySWolfe. If you want to expand more on this topic, read more of her work here. 

1/DON'T BE AFRAID OF "TABOO" TOPICS

"Great fathers touch on as many topics as possible with their daughters, even the uncomfortable ones."

"It's listening and sharing your viewpoints so that she feels loved, seen, and supported."

This will prepare her for tough conversations (personal or business) later in life.

2/ FIND WAYS TO DO STUFF TOGETHER

Take time with your daughter. Ask her to join you on a trip to the hardware store. Read a book next to her while she is reading. Take a walk. Have a daddy/daughter date night. Just take time with her.

3/ ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS

Use your own life experiences as opportunities to teach your girl how to handle situations. Our daughters will observe how we react. Model the behavior you want in your daughter. Modeling could look like how we deal with that car that just cut you off. Show her what it's like to be a good neighbor and a good husband. You will leave an imprint on her.

4/ TREAT HER LIKE SHE'S THE HERO

Have high expectations. Show and tell your daughter she is strong, independent, and capable. Be her supporter, not her savior. Don't jump in to fix her problems (like a prince saving a princess). She can do it now; show her that by being her sideline coach and supporter.

5/ USE A STORY

A story is the most powerful way to share values or learnings with our daughters. It will feel less like a lecture (how many times did you fall asleep during your first year in Chem101?).

Melanie Green, a professor at the University at Buffalo states, "stories can alter broader attitudes — like our views on relationships, politics or the environment. Messages that feel like commands — even good advice… aren't always received well."

A story conveys information in a relatable package… "the information will likely come across less like a lecture and more like a personal truth."

6/ CHUCK YOUR PHONE

Be present. When it is daddy/daughter time, don't let anything interrupt. Show her that she's important and your time together is precious by locking your phone away. One day your lil' girl will be tending to her family and responsibilities.

7/ BE SPONTANEOUS

Don't wait. For a weekend. A birthday. Be impromptu. Maybe even play hooky. Here's why playing hooky is a great idea

It will make the time together more memorable.

8/ CHEER THE HARD WORK (not the outcome)

Don't celebrate the A+; rather, cheer all the hours she spent studying. Celebrating the hard work reinforces the independence and grit needed to be a badass.

Dad Challenge

Pick one. Start today. Then build on what works. One day our daughters will thank us.

Dads, Do This To Raise Badass Girls — Dynasty Dad: A Guide To Shaping Your Future Generations

Want to raise a badass daughter? A daughter that isn't a helpless princess but is strong and independent? I do! I have two lovely daughters and want to raise them to be badasses (confident, fearless, and independent). I don't want lil' princesses waiting for some prince to come to save

https://dynastydad.com/blogs/8-things-dads-can-do-to-raise-fiercely-independent-girls

This Week's Interesting Tweet:

This is a recent tweet from Elon Musk.

Our role as dads could be to "break generational trauma" or etch something positive in our kids and future generations (i.e. curiosity, empathy, emotional connection).

The 7th generation principle, from the Native American Iroquois people, says that the decisions we make today result in changes for seven generations into the future.

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