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Good morning, this is the bite-sized guide, for dads that know the best way to raise future explorers is by dadding against the grain. Each week we go to the end of the internet to find hacks, that you can Ctrl-C (copy) and Ctrl-P (paste) into your daily routine.
🩳✂️This week's shortcut: Is about connecting but this time not with your kids but with your partner. It takes two to tango with kids 🩳✂️
How To Date Your Partner
What are you doing to make your wife (partner) feel special? Loved? Doted on?
It can be easy to forget the need to take special moments for keeping romance, well, romance-y.
Here are a few easy things you can do to date your wife again.
Skip The Fancy Meal
A Rage Room is basically 10 years of marriage counseling in one hour
The date night that has been programmed into us is the:
Movie-Dinner-Maybe-Sex-Probably-Sleep pipeline.
And as you date longer, it becomes increasingly difficult to imagine any other date.
It’s easy. You guys are hungry.
It’s also repetitive.
And Uninspired.
And won’t feel special if it’s the only activity you guys do besides parenting.
So, take your partner ax-throwing. Or on a hike. Or to the aquarium. Or have a picnic. Or or or… you get the point! Anywhere that is not the same restaurant you hit once a month.
But, when you do go out for your next dinner,
Make A Concerted Effort To Listen On Your Dates
Do you ever see two people out at a restaurant and instantly think:
Wow, that is DEFINITELY a first date.
The focus on listening is uncompromised.
Borderline psychotic.
The guy is matching his bites up to hers, hiding his inner desire to annihilate the plate.
Thankfully, that ship has fully sailed for us married folk.
But!
It’s the thought that counts.
That undivided attention tells the other person one thing:
You are special, and I care about you.
Bring some of that first-date energy to your next dinner.
Make a Gratitude List
Listen.
As our lives get increasingly complicated, it is easy to let resentment build.
Sadly, it is far too easy to live a life focused on troubles and daily difficulties.
It doesn’t matter if you are religious or not, taking time out of your day to write down what you are grateful for is amazing.
And, it is one surefire way to be able to appreciate all the things you love about your life.
And your wife.
Which will make it soooooo much easier to get romantic-y.
And feel, even for a moment, back in the honeymoon stage.
What I Watched This Week (1 interesting article):
Harvard-trained parenting expert: Fathers who do these 8 things are more likely to raise confident, strong-minded daughters. The highlights below (in a tweet):
How to raise fiercely independent girls.
8 things dads can do to raise daughters that can conquer any obstacle in life...
— Radical Dadding (@striving_dad)
1:25 PM • Aug 18, 2022